Why I choose experience over materialism

Wednesday, 22 March 2017

The more I thought about it the last couple weeks, the more I realized what a huge materialistic and greedy person I have been my whole life. Mostly unconscious. I have always loved 'stuff'. I love a pretty interior, clothes, make-up, stationary,... the list goes on. I love buying and receiving new things. It makes me happy.. To some extent. See when you buy something new, you love it, you want use it all the time. But after a while it gets old and you don't feel the same towards it anymore. It's just the same as all the other stuff hanging around in your house. So the time to buy something new comes again.. and again. And I am sick of that routine.

This summer I threw almost all my clothes away. It felt like a fresh air. I loved it. But after a while I got this feeling I had absolutely nothing to wear.. but the thing is, I still kept a full closet. So how come I had this sudden feeling of not having anything at all? I had less, but not nothing. I still own to much. I still haven't worn everything in my closet. I love fashion, I love how you can express yourself with it. But I don't like spending so much money on it and it's also not necessary. Clothes don't really give you  experiences. They don't make you happy in the long term. I have learned to say no to a lot of things this year. But clothes is still so hard. Every week I get this feeling of needing something new. I never buy something but still I feel like not having enough. Why is it that we need to have so much? Why can't I feel happy whilst wearing almost the same outfit every day?

And with these thoughts crossing my mind, I decided I didn't wanted to be that person that choses material things over experiences. I love life and living way to much. When I am older I am never going to think about this amazing dress I whore in my twenties. I will think about my friends, travels and all the crazy adventures I had. Those will be the things that make me smile. Those are the things that right now also make me feel the happiest. 

2017 will be the year I start my journey of minimalism. I am more than ready. Will I be able to stop my behavior of buying stuff I think I need right from the start? No. I know I will buy new stuff, I have this month bought to much of what I know I don't need. But I know I will learn in time. It just needs to become behavior that feels like normal.

Don't take life to serious. I wished I loved more. I wish I knew how precious life was. How special. and at the same time fragile and insignificant. I wish i didn't give up on my dreams so easy. One day life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching. When we look back on our lives we will all wonder, did my life mean anything? Was I loved? Did I have an impact on anybody else? Wo won't care about opinions from others. Make your live matter. Material things are not that what make your life worth watching back on.

I want to life a life so when I am older I won't regret a single thing. I want to have lived not a 100% but 300%. I will clear out all my belongings, throw away unnecessary stuff and not buy anything I can live without this year. No new clothes, make-up, ... I want to travel. That is where my money needs to go. I know it will make me far more happy than a new pair of shoes in the long term.


Does money determines happiness in life?

Thursday, 16 March 2017

"What would you like to do if money were no object? How would you really enjoy spending your life? What do you desire? What makes you itch? What sort of a situation would you like?" These are questions I find myself getting lost in time over time. 
Most of us have no clue about what we want to do with our lives once we have to make this big decision. I myself when I was little dreamed off so much and such big things for the future. But once we graduate high school and really have to make a decision, we have the faintest idea what we want to do. We start doubting everything. I do know what makes me happy. But than comes the grown up questions in my head: "Will I get payed doing this later? Will I find a job in this field? I am good enough to be successful in a world where you always have to want to be the best?" I have this constant fear that I need to be able to pay my bills later. So are these thoughts standing in the way of really living a life I want?  Is this making me forget about my real dreams in life? Or is this right?

When we grow up we never think about restrictions and the reality of our dreams. We don't let money determine our life. I like that. When we grow up we say we would like to be painters, we’d like to be poets, we’d like to be writers, but as everybody knows once you're older you can’t earn any money easily that way. Or you have to go 300% for that what you're passionated about. And that's not always that simple. It can be great sometimes to just study for three years, find a job, get payed and have a stable life with no worries about any finance related stuff. Also, when you say you want to be an artist, people are fast to assume you want to become an art teacher or something along the lines. Or get a "real" job, and paint as a hobby. 

When you follow your dream for an unconventional career people are fast to make assumptions like " You do that and forget the money." But what is so bad about that? Because if you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. I believe that if you do what makes you happy, and what you're passionated about. Money will come. You can never do something for the money. Than it will never work out. You have to do something because you can not not do it. Because it gives you a reason to live and energy. If you stop listening to your heart you’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, to go on doing things you don’t like doing, which is stupid. Life is one big experience. I don't want to be old and think back about everything I could have done. I want to think back on my life and think about everything I have done. Working my whole life at a desk 9 to 5 isn't what will make me feel complete. I won't gain anything from this. So I chose for something that makes me happy. And it's not only for unconventional careers. Every career choice you make should come from your heart and should be determined by the fact weather you see yourself doing this for a long time and become happy doing this. 

It's far better to have a short life that is full of what you love doing, than a long life spent in a miserable way and be rich but no love for what you are doing day after day. Satisfaction is something subjective, and no one other than you can really define what happiness and success means to you. Money doesn't persee equals happiness. Maybe for some people it's important. And that's fine. But I also strongly believe that passion equals happiness. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is, or if you earn a lot of money doing it. You can eventually turn it into a great succes, you could eventually become a very good at it. It’s the only way to become the best of something, to be really with it. And then you’ll be able to get good money for whatever it is you're doing. 

But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like, in order to go spend it on things you don’t like, doing things you don’t like and to teach the youth to follow in the same track. It's so easy to follow your parents footsteps and live the same sort of lives they are living. In order that they may justify themselves and find satisfaction in life by bringing up their children to bring up their children to do the same thing.

It's so important to consider this question: What do I desire? What makes me feel ultimately happy? Never let  your life be decided by parents or people around you. Only you know what really means something to you and what will make you happy. 

Most often it's a combination of how satisfied you are with your life as a whole - so think of health, work, friendships and relationships, and how you feel emotionally at this time. Not one thing can define your happiness. It's so many small things together that make you feel complete as a person.

Inspired by Alan Watts

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